What's Love Got to Do With It

Love, sweet love.... the same love that creates fear, and then allows us to overcome it.  The same love that rocks our world, then breaks our heart.  The very love that makes us blissfully happy and then lost and hopeless. When we feel that love, we are happy...  people skip, hum, do things with the slightest of ease, and breeze by all shiny and new... smiles are sure to follow... as The Beatles say, "all you need is love."  There have been many studies done on happiness that show that no matter what people's end goal is in life, their motivation in having it is generally because they think it will make them happy.  Which me leads me to the question... when it comes to happiness... and what's love got to do with it?


Buddha says, "There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way." Well if happiness is the way... I say that love is the thing that keeps you moving.  So many times I've heard people wanting love, seeking love... but from my experience love can only be experienced, not held... it is not a noun, (for those of you who don't play madlibs, a noun is a person, place or thing), but a verb, (again, just incase, a verb is an action:-).  We cannot expect anything to make us happy, we can only do things which keep us happy.  When we look as it as a noun and try to hold it, we stand still, and often lose that love, as well as our happiness... but when we keep the wheels turning on the love train, we keep moving along on our happy way :-)

Today's Silver Lining

"What's love got to do, got to do with it, What's love but a sweet old fashioned notion, What's love got to do, got to do with it, Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken." What's Love Got To Do With It- By Tina Turner  

Why, Thank You

The more I choose to be thankful for, the more life seems to open its doors and welcome me in.  I meet people who seem to be exactly what I need in that moment.  I'm in the right place at the right time.  It's not that the things in my life have even changed that much, but there is a difference between having a life, and having a life you're grateful for.  And the more I am thankful for… the more I have to be thankful for. Life is full of the same things for everyone in different costumes.  Joys, sorrows, loses, gains, struggles, victories... but what makes some people enjoy things more than others, is the way they choose to view these things.  We can choose how we view our lives and react to our circumstance.  When things get tough, we can choose to learn from them and move on… or play victim.  When things are good, we can choose to enjoy and be grateful for the blessing, or worry about what's gonna happen next. 
 
Now I'm not saying you have to be grateful for everything that happens, (or maybe I am), but at least looking at everything in relation to it's place in the bigger picture.  You may not like going to the gym, but you'll probably like the results.  It's not easy to be thankful while watching a loved one suffer, but it makes you more grateful for them. Change is sometimes tough, but it enables new exciting things to happen.  To be grateful is to really value and embrace everything on the path of our life's journey, and that allows us to keep moving along.  Thank you is like the "Open Sesame," to the  secret door of life's abundance.  I try to wake up with one "thank-you" everyday, and have seen how welcome I am into a whole new world of possibilities!

Today's Silver Lining:

I drank too much last night, got bills to pay, my head just feels in pain, I missed the bus and, there'll be hell today, I'm late for work again, And even if I'm there, they'll all imply , that I, might not last the day, And then you call me and it's not so bad, it's not so bad and I want to thank you for giving me the best day of my life, Oh just to be with you is having the best day of my life. Thank You- by Dido 

The Mysterious Next

I'm always talking about how much I love change.  I embrace it good or bad.  It keeps me going, growing and feeling like I'm making progress... I don't however always have a smile on my face when I'm in the midst of it.  Especially during the dreaded stage of... "What next?"  I've probably been there more than most.  (In fact, for all of you digital socialites out there, if "what's next?" were a place on foursquare I'd be the mayor!)  However, even at the space in between I can't help but feel excited for what's next.


I've heard it many times before and often wondered it myself, "How do I know I'm doing the right thing?"  And every time I've ever done something, no matter what it was, it's lead me to realize that you can only do the right thing.  No matter what the outcome was, somehow, whatever step I took was exactly what I needed to get where I was; which is also a part of where I am now.  It's easy to look into the future and do something to try to get a certain result, then be disappointed when the expectation isn't met, but as I learned from Russell Simmons:

"Always focus on your effort, instead of the results of that effort."

Such great advice.  Just focusing on what can be done now. Life as it is.  Where it is.  Because it is. There's always another and, if, or, what, but for now, you can choose to live it. What's next?  Whatever happens once the next step is taken... but until then it is crucial to remember to keep strutting your stuff... Because no matter where you are now, if you're here, there's still another next to your what in life.

"Here is a test to find out whether your mission in life is complete. If you're alive, it isn't."~ Richard Bach

Today's Silver Lining:

"Welcome to your life, There's no turning back, Even while we sleep, We will find you, Acting on your best behavior, Turn your back on mother nature, Everybody wants to rule the world, It's my own design, It's my own remorse, Help me to decide, Help me make the most, Of freedom and of pleasure, Nothing ever lasts forever, Everybody wants to rule the world." Everybody Wants to Rule the World- by Tears for Fears